The kind of fear that typically produce the most stress for a prolonged period of time is usually anticipatory fear. Most terrible, unanticipated events in life that could potentially happen to oneself, while cannot be completely stopped, their risks can usually be lowered through minimizing daily risky behaviors and performing active daily preventions. People fear negative consequences from unanticipated events and/or how they executed certain actions in various real-life scenarios that could bring negative consequences to them. Most people think their work-life is horrible due to one or two people at their workplaces especially how “bad” their boss is. This could not be any further from the truth. If you ever worked for “good” a boss or workplaces where everyone was nice to each other and work-life was great, you will come to realize these are also likely the same kind of people who could be terrible coworkers or a horrendous boss if they were placed into a bad environment. The ecosystem often changes people’s pattern of behaviors. Listen, when your boss is “bad”, if you already done an introspective of yourself and also talked to many other people who say they feel the same way, I think it’s probably time for you to start looking for a new job as soon as possible. Not because of your bad boss, it’s because the organization you work for is probably quite toxic and the industry may or may not be as well. Do you know why people commit fraud in the workplace? It’s not because they were born evil or corrupt, most likely the organization that they work for foster a culture that places tremendous pressure on its workforce to potentially conduct such behaviors. Whatever their policies and training videos say are irrelevant to what is actually happening. When the whole industry is experiencing a decline and the organization fails to make the type of sagacious investments that run contra to the current economic reality yet still expect extraordinary growth, what do you actually think may happen from a probability standpoint? Yes many will elect to just quit or get fired because they do not want to be pressured into doing what they believe are the wrong thing to do but from a probability standpoint there probably will be at least person who may cave under pressure and end up making the some of the biggest mistakes of their lives. In these kinds of situations, if you don’t leave on your own terms, most likely, you will leave on their terms. Taking advantage of desperation is something that was long engraved into capitalism. That is why it is so important to fight desperation with FU money. FU money serves as the gold reserve of moral compass by power projecting once’s capability to unleash personal MAD in a legally compliant way. This serves not only as a super effective buffer/deterrence but it also create a power multiplier effect where those who are trying to encroach on your best interests may have to give you more respect and/or more consideration than before they pressured you. Because now it’s no longer about where you will do what they ask you to do or now. Now it’s about ensuring you do not execute MAD in a legally compliant manner where you report them to legally compliant various channels. Despite organizations forcing employees to sign NDAs and all kinds of agreements, unfortunately for them, none of these will do jack s*** when there are clear laws written on prohibiting retaliations, courts frequently make these or clauses within these in these kinds of situations unenforceable and/or there are legally permissible carve out exemptions for whistleblowing frequently anonymously to certain channel(s). Many organizations especially the publicly-traded ones also have policies for reporting such things to management channels. Beyond that, what these people are most afraid of is once the general public and their shareholder/investors/bankers/financiers/regulators get their hands on such information, there is almost zero chance they could stop the negative consequences. The artificial person of an organization might still exist though it’s reputation greatly tarnish and might even want to change their name or merge with another company, the people who help it to conduct these actions will most likely be scapegoated. This is precisely having FU money and strong skills with top ten-er educational and corporate pedigree/experience is basically a game-changer every time. The best companies will always needs the best talents regardless the double edge sword issue therefore they will have a strong need for compliance, not out of the goodness of the artificial corporation’s heartless organs but because they want to continue to get paid a premium by the markets for being trustworthy and reliable. This is precisely why most of these people who commit these kinds of things for less than a few billion are usually not top ten-ers. When top ten-ers do this kind of thing they usually do it because the upside stakes are extremely high.
If management are not from these schools, I might not even recommend working for them because they might not know any better. You know what the problem is? No, it’s not you, it’s not the so called bad boss, it’s not any one person or entity’s issue. You are working for a bad boss because the organization you work for most likely is experiencing issues. Think about it. If your boss is that bad and everyone complains about that boss yet he or she is still managing people in the long-term. What does that say about the organization that hired this individual? I take that back. It might not just be an issue with the organization but rather an industry-wide issue. Someone hired your boss, someone is doing periodic performance reviews of your boss and someone is paying your boss to be your boss. You see where the problem is? Some people claim bosses of certain ethnicity, age, religion and/or gender is better than others. Whether they are true or not, I will let you decide as I can’t really talk about these things due to social contract. I will say this much. If you believe certain demographic groups have certain tendencies that are somewhat unique to a certain degree versus other demographic groups, this belief may or may not be true. I think what is more interesting is if these were to be true, wouldn’t organizations that hire people of certain demographic groups above a certain government- mandated demographic hiring policy an indication of certain facts or factoids that one can safely extrapolate from without thinking out loud? Though this trend is changing as enemies both foreign and domestic may be trying to take away the core competency of the West leaving the necessity to utilize potentially distrusted groups to attend Ivy Leagues in large numbers and having them run important high tech industry though this could just be a stalling tactic as the West slowly but surely onshore or nearshore its capabilities while utilizing these people but eventually will develop its own native breed loyal talent pool who only potentially love one country with effective concentrated peer pressure due to their cultural immersion into the system. People leave bad bosses all the time. A lot of people believe they are just leaving a bad boss like a bad boss exist within an organization in a vacuum. What they don’t realize is that they are actually leaving the company that may be empowering these bad bosses due to certain business needs. Don’t be fooled. Many of these companies have decades of finding out how to run a business. They know how to spot certain things. If a bad boss been bad for a long time in their role at the organization, you don’t think these profit oriented capitalist would know about it? Why didn’t they do something about it? You think you sending them an email or telling HR how bad your boss is going to change the situation? If a bad boss were to be fired, it most likely is a business decision made by the decision makers within the company. Don’t worry about your sunk cost. It already happened. Ensure you are able to convert your sunk cost into transferable skills.
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Conquer your fears of working for a bad boss by learning Spanish.
I hate to tell you this but your bad boss is probably not “bad” in front of everyone. And the upper and lower bounds of your boss’ lousiness was already predetermined the moment you started your job application process with the organization that now or previously employed you. I think some of these questions below are important questions you may want to ask yourself to better understand your current work situation. Did you actually interview with your boss’ boss? Is your boss a middle manager or the head of that specialized department that you are employed under within the company? Did you get an office or a cubical? Did the company give you a higher offer than what than what the salary range listed on the original job description? Did everyone who interview you respond back to the email thank you letter you sent them? How long did you have to wait to get an offer letter? Did personnel within your department change shortly after you joined the company? Is your position a new position or a backfill for someone who quit or was let go? You are hired because they think you are able to produce significant value to their organization than what they are paying you, typically you would generate at least 3-5 times in average per worker revenue than what they pay out in salary and benefits. Believe it or not, your bad boss might be a very good person outside of work. Your boss may even think his or her boss is a bad boss. Bad bosses are usually a symptom of a toxic organization or industry not just a bad person running the department. Your bad boss is probably being put under a lot of pressure to be a “bad boss” in your eyes but that’s the only way he or she can be “a good employee” in the eyes of his or her bosses. Most people are not born evil even if this has been a forever debate among the various schools of philosophical thoughts on human goodness and evilness. Know why you are doing something, be good at what you do and having a backup plan usually break through fear even though fear will probably never go away completely as it is both physiological and physiological. You have to learn to plan big but execute in small steps. Making too much noise or waves may create situations where unexpected elements getting involved in various scenarios. Knowing tactically things will always change and adapt to overcome the negative affects of changes and embrace its opportunities will allow you to have a higher probability of achieving your grand plans.
I think some of the most important things when choosing a company to work for is 1. Will you receive institutional support and on the job training that will allow you to gain meaningful, transferable skills? Your probability of having that is greatly increased when the big boss above your own boss interviewed you and approved your hiring. 2. Will you be treated fairly and relatively well? If this a highly profitable, well-established and heavily regulated industry, congrats, most likely you will have a decent work-life balance provided you are not toxic yourself. 3. Will you be promoted or be receiving substantial raises? That’s not something you really need to care about. Because in reality, if you don’t switch jobs every few years, either you will get grossly underpaid for your experiences or you will be eventually let go. Your next job will be much harder to find commiserate of your previous pay if you are let go or having skill stagnation. Switching jobs every two years is the new norm therefore there is no such thing as stability nor job security anymore. Don’t worry about becoming a manager because management positions especially middle management positions are not what they use to be. Update your skills and education to give yourself the best chances to be prepared for whatever challenges coming your way. A job is just a job. There is no such thing as careers anymore because skills need to be consistently updated and industry changes and converges ever increasingly so. Many so called careers have now become interdisciplinary fields requiring skills from different professions. By the time you spent a decade in the industry, the entire industry and your job may completely change in front of your eyes. Whatever your chosen field is, just focus on updating your skills. The rat race is not humane, it’s usually necessary to start your own thing on the side.
Learning Spanish is super important in North America. Let’s be real, these people may seem useless to you, but a single cockroach dropping could cause diseases that could cause a global pandemic. While you may not care about or for these people at all and they may even greatly annoy you, but knowing what 30-50% of the future population thinks may just save your life. When you are able to do that, your unique thinking style plus your language skills and culture understanding of them will allow you to pick up a very strong FU skill that can help you build a deeper FU moat that could potentially allow you to live a relatively stress-free life. I wrote the below regarding learning Spanish in a previous post. “If you are a fluent English speaker, I believe Spanish is the absolute most important and easiest language to learn. Spanish speaking population segment will continue to grow rapidly worldwide and in North America Latinx/Hispanic descendants will likely account for over 30% of the population within 40 years. Spanish is a no brainer pick over French, despite its growth in usage in Africa, when choosing a second language for fluent English speakers for many reasons that I will not discuss here mostly due to social contract reasons. The hype over learning the supposed superpower East Asian country’s language in your life time is probably over and will likely yield little benefit as it struggles during its de-globalize/de-westernize phase during at the very least the better part of your career. That country realistically need to gain unfettered access to the Pacific Ocean to be on equal playing fields with the combined core Western Alliance aligned nations. It most likely won’t expand eastward into the Pacific due to impediments that they likely do not want to confront in the next decade at the very least and instead will likely explore northern and/or westward inland expansions, basically cannibalizing its own semi-alliances.”
























































































































































